Truth be told I had no idea what I was going to write for this post. I can be a fairly opinionated person, but have learned to pick my battles because the reality is that most things are not worth making a huge fuss over. In my opinion there are just so many more things to steward my energy into than being a disagreeable person, but I never want to lack boldness in standing up for what I believe in.
So here’s something I believe: I believe that this world would be a much better place if people learned how to deal with conflict correctly.
Like I said, I had no idea what I was going to write for this post, this dare to live boldly by speaking my mind about something. Then the Lord provided an opportunity yesterday that only solidified my belief that the lack of biblical conflict resolution is a HUGE problem and I couldn’t say no. I can’t and won’t back down from this. Y’all, if we are going to get anywhere in life then we need to be able to work through our issues together, give grace and forgiveness, and love one another well.
There won’t be any details here about what happened, but the gist is that rather than someone having a conversation with us about an issue they went to a third party instead. Rather than taking a chance on strengthening a relationship, they (and honestly I have no idea who “they” are) asked someone else to do the dirty work for them.
I believe that biblical conflict resolution means taking a chance on talking to someone – like, an actual conversation – about the issue, however big or small.
It means being patient with our fellow fallible humans.
It means owning your emotions and owning your mistakes. It also means humbly allowing others to own theirs.
It means extending grace and forgiveness because we have that infinitely showered over us.
It means loving someone enough to work through it all and coming out on the other side, whatever the other side looks like.
Y’all, I believe that we can all do this together, but more importantly we can do ALL THINGS through Christ who gives us strength (Philippians 4:13), even the hard emotional stuff. In a world that would pull us apart, I pray that we can say NO to our desire to pass off relational conflict to other people, and that we would say YES to love and forgiveness and mercy.
Lord, I come before you asking that you will heal our hearts. That you would give us boldness to work through our stuff together as directed by your Word. That we can extend the same forgiveness and love to others that you have so boldly and FREELY given to us. And thank you. Thank you for giving your Son so that we might live in bold freedom for you all our days. I pray that we would be able to dig down and trust you to help us do that.