Halfway through the week (boom!), halfway through the week (cha!) I’m so glad we’re halfway through I even made a little song for ya 🙂
Lunch today was basically the exact same thing as yesterday: some Bob’s Red Mill Vegi Soup…
Anyone know this song?
It’s definitely been stuck in my head all day, and as I wandered what I should talk about in this afternoon’s post, I kept getting sidetracked by the lyrics to this song! I’m not someone who typically believes in signs, but I figured I might as well use it as inspiration!
A few months ago I did a guest post on Then Heather Said about how health is more than just eating well and working out; it encompasses things like relationships as well. I’ve copied, pasted, and edited some of the content from that post to go in this one, but I’d encourage you to read the original one as well as just checking out her blog! We all know that our relationships or lack thereof can be determining factors in our moods, eating and exercise habits, concentration, and ability to sleep. Therefore I thought I’d talk about how being married to my amazing husband has truly helped me to work on the first steps in learning to love myself.
I am extremely blessed in the fact that I married the man of my dreams at a young age (I was 23)! Throughout my weight gain AND my weight loss, Nate has told me I’m beautiful and treated me as though I’m beautiful every step of the way. He always did before, but the difference is that I now believe in myself as well. I can’t lie and say that there aren’t days that I don’t participate in internal fat talk; I did that yesterday and the day before. But it’s been lessened from me learning to love myself the way my husband loves me!
Now, this post isn’t meant to say that loving yourself only comes from being in love with someone else. In fact, it’s the opposite. I came into loving myself a little late in the game, and there have been times that my marriage has struggled because of it. I want to encourage anyone who’s NOT married to understand that loving yourself will not only make you happier, but it will improve every relationship as well. Your life doesn’t start when you find someone to love.
My best friend, other than my husband, is my sister Salah.
As she mentioned in her most recent post on her blog, she recently went through a bad breakup with her boyfriend of 8 months. When I talked to her on Saturday night after it happened, one of the things she was most upset about is that she’s 22 and not close to getting married yet. I also have several friends who are not married yet and are not excited about that fact. My sister has been playing collegiate volleyball for the past 4 years and has barely had time to breathe, let alone date. The only one who put the expectation of being in a serious relationship was herself. She’s been one of my biggest supporters in my weight loss battle, but I was thankful I could be a good friend and a good big sister when I reminded her that just like we can’t compare our bodies to other womens’ bodies, we can’t compare our relationships with other womens’ relationships.
Yes, I was fortunate to marry early, but I didn’t know how to love myself first or love Nate well beforehand, and our marriage suffered because of it. In fact, three years in I’d say we’re still working on healing from the damage I caused because of my own selfish isolation with my disordered thoughts. It’s significantly better, but I just wonder: what would have or could have happened if I’d taken the time to love myself?
So to finally bring this full-circle, if you’re single and wondering if you’ll ever meet that guy, get married, have children, and never be alone again, just know that you haven’t met him yet. BUT you know YOU, and have the ability to work on your relationship with yourself. Start loving yourself now so that when you meet that person you can cut through the bull and love them wholeheartedly! The reality is you likely have amazing friends and family who want to be there for you; LET THEM! Be encouraged by this online community of food and health bloggers! The key is to know that you’re not alone, and you DESERVE to live a happy and healthy life. There is hope for all of us, married or single, to live a life of love.